When the people we love or with whom we have a deep connection stop caring, stop paying attention, stop investing and fighting for the relationship, trust begins to slip away and hurt starts seeping in. Disengagement triggers shame and our greatest fears - the fears of being abandoned, unworthy, and unloved. What can make this covert betrayal so much more dangerous than something like a lie or an affair is that we can’t point to the source of our pain - there’s no single event, no obvious evidence of brokenness.
Have you been betrayed? Are you still in a relationship with someone who seems like they've stopped caring, stopped investing, stopped paying attention? Do you feel hurt because you still love someone and you’re no longer getting evidence that they love you back?
Sometimes you just have to disengage and stop trying. Free yourself -- and jettison the baggage for good.
The most difficult part of dealing with obvious betrayal is not just to let the other person go - but to be able to come back, be able to love again, and have the self-confidence to not be afraid of being vulnerable.
Because betrayal can only happen to those who love.