Sexual Snark in Social Media Sites

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I see a number of obviously married women (and some men) who post the kind of immature sexual-innuendo-laden silliness posts that if their spouses could read their posts, it would never have been posted. Of course if both spouses have an account and they can laugh about it, that's different. But I bet in a lot of cases these are just people who are unhappy in their marriages and are using G+ as a kind of sexual escape from that. The ones who have happy marriages you usually don't see doing this because they are busy enjoying the company of their spouse. I note this as a person who was once happily married and is now single.

I don't want to speak in absolutes, but you can see this kind of stuff and i find it a little annoying, especially from married women. There are even these "eCard" sites that seem to capitalize on this quasi-sexual snarkyness. I must see a half dozen people i follow doing this, primarily women. If you are bored  and don’t have social contact at an office, I can see where this might be acceptable.

The litmus test is this: If you (a married person) post something sexually snarky like that, ask yourself if your spouse would approve. If the answer is no, you're probably using the behavior as some sort of sexual escape into a fantasy world of your own making and it's unlikely to be productive for your marriage. All it does is cheapen you. And I see people who do this repeatedly.  If it's "boys will be boys" or "girls will be girls" type of snark and you are single or functionally separated, I'm fine with that and I do it myself. But then, I am not married. If I were, my spouse would be online participating with me and my content would almost undoubtedly be different.

To summarize, marriage is a contract of trust and respect for each other. If one cannot meet the requirements of this contract, one is free to become unmarried at any time and do as they please.

Peter has been active on the C# and other MS newsgroups, has had samples at gotdotnet.com (now codegallery.com) that have been downloaded over 56,000 times, and has written numerous articles for eggheadcafe.com, for which he is a co-founder, and MSDNAA sites. He has also been a technical reviewer on books from Prentice Hall, Manning and other publishers. Peter was a Microsoft MVP for 10 years. Peter was born and raised in New York City, and after a stint as a jazz musician playing contrabass with the Robert Hunt Trio, migrated to sunny Florida, where he was hired as a rookie Financial Consultant at Merrill Lynch in Orlando, specializing in Corporate Services. It was at Merrill that Peter realized computers and technology were his forte. He spent his last few years at Merrill developing real – time computerized trading and and stock charting program using advanced technical analysis indicators, some of which are his own inventions. In 1997, he moved on to architect and serve as lead developer on a number of innovative web-based and middleware solutions for the healthcare and financial services industry.

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