Why Do Sociopaths Cheat?

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Have you ever wondered, "why did the person I was with cheat so much? Has this person any clue how much their actions have hurt me?"
Not all sociopaths are unfaithful. But a large proportion are. Simply being unfaithful is not part of the criteria for sociopathy, in fact it’s not even in the DSM checklist. But many sociopaths are unfaithful; why is this?
Why do sociopaths cheat?
Boredom
Poor impulse control
Lack of guilt
Lack of empathy
To boost narcissistic ego
Lacking in emotional connection
Opportunistic
Additional source for supply

The sociopath rarely cheats because he/she has met the love of his life. He cheats, because the opportunity is presented to him. The sociopath will take on the persona of people that they are around, so being close to other people gives new dimension to their own personality.
Quite simply, the sociopath cheats, because he can. Without guilt or remorse, there is no reason not to. He doesn't particularly make long term plans, and tends to act within the moment if an opportunity arises.
Remember that the sociopath does not have the same moral compass as non-sociopathic people. Other people learn that cheating is bad, as it hurts people. It causes pain. The sociopath doesn't learn from past mistakes and will repeat the same behavior over and over.

When you first discover that your sociopathic partner has cheated, it can be devastatingly heart wrenching. The sociopath is a liar and deceptive and to your face will do anything to protect the lie. Often the usual signs of infidelity will be absent. This is because the sociopath is used to being deceptive and lying, and feels more comfortable with the lie than the truth. The sociopath also feels little or  no guilt, remorse or shame. So will continue to lie, and unless you are smart, will not be caught out (unless he/she wants you to find out about it).

It is likely that when the truth comes out that the sociopath will blame you (nothing is ever their fault), making you feel even worse. Many people uncover not just one affair, but a multitude of people that the sociopath was having affairs with.

To recover:
Get out of the relationship and establish a No Contact situation
Realize that this is not your fault, the sociopath would have cheated before and will cheat again
Understand that not even all sociopaths cheat, but those that do will continue to repeat this behavior
A sociopath who cheats and betrays will always do so
Remember nothing you do will change him/her, you can only change yourself!

Brought to you by somebody who is a lot wiser.

Peter has been active on the C# and other MS newsgroups, has had samples at gotdotnet.com (now codegallery.com) that have been downloaded over 56,000 times, and has written numerous articles for eggheadcafe.com, for which he is a co-founder, and MSDNAA sites. He has also been a technical reviewer on books from Prentice Hall, Manning and other publishers. Peter was a Microsoft MVP for 10 years. Peter was born and raised in New York City, and after a stint as a jazz musician playing contrabass with the Robert Hunt Trio, migrated to sunny Florida, where he was hired as a rookie Financial Consultant at Merrill Lynch in Orlando, specializing in Corporate Services. It was at Merrill that Peter realized computers and technology were his forte. He spent his last few years at Merrill developing real – time computerized trading and and stock charting program using advanced technical analysis indicators, some of which are his own inventions. In 1997, he moved on to architect and serve as lead developer on a number of innovative web-based and middleware solutions for the healthcare and financial services industry.

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